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Brave Not Perfect by Reshma Saujani

In between my Bookclub monthly books, I read a lot. From books to journals to magazines to articles. I love to learn and I love to have an understanding of all things. I was led to this book by a sponsored IG post. I remember scrolling through Instagram, and the range of emotions Instagram offers. Then a sponsored Ad led me to read a post that mentioned this book and the rest they say is history. The book is amazing. I enjoyed every page and the author was a great cheerleader for me. Go Soma DIts been a great reading year for me, all my books have affirmed my path and journey.

Written by the founder of Girls Who Code- Reshma Saujani, the book advocates for girls, stating that girls should not be afraid of being imperfect, failing or making mistakes. In our failures, we gain invaluable experiences that prepare us for future exploits. The author shares personal moments of her failures and how she bounced back. Her experiences are not life changing, I can relate to some but what’s life changing is her attitude towards failures and the lessons she extracted from her mistakes. Prior to reading this book, I cringed at the thought of my past mistakes. Sometimes I get emotional, other times I laugh it out but all times I am filled with regret. Why Soma? What were you thinking? How could you? Not anymore. While there have been other books and speakers that preached having a positive attitude towards failures, this book established the message firmly and unforgettably.

I grew up in a home with a powerhouse for a mother and supporter for a father (my kids call him The Yes Grandpa). Sounds like a conducive environment for a girl to grow up brave and not worry about perfection? I am not brave. I am strong though. It’s important to realise that strong and brave are two different traits. Strong is vastly celebrated because it captures perseverance, faith and resilience. Brave, however involves out of the box behaviour, non-conformist attitude, and sometimes turning away from cultural and religious notions. See why brave may not be as celebrated.

From my experience, growing up in Nigerian family, there was no room for failure and imperfection. The stage was set for victory, accolades and celebrations. Failures, risks and lack of purpose were not welcomed and if they happened, ain’t no one cheering. This means that before you embark on any journey, you better be sure that you will excel and succeed. Imagine how many projects, experiences, people that were stepped down because there was no clarity or guarantee to succeed? I don’t know about you, but for me it was a lot. Well….maybe, not as much because my parents have always accommodated my adventures and seen beyond my failures but looking back, oh the things I could have done.

I am glad I read this book. In my language (Igbo) there is a saying ” Your morning is when you wake up”. Between turning 40 in January and relocating a couple months earlier, I was blessed with a new dawn. I have become more resolute and more intentional. Like I said earlier, I am strong. However, strength keeps you but does not move you. Brave moves you. To move from here to there (there being dreams and goals), I need to be brave and brave I shall be.

These are some pages from the book where my highlighter and I got excited:

I definitely recommend this book especially if you could do with a good pep talk and encouragement.

SomachiSpeaks Rating: 5/5

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