So apparently, the comfort zone is not the place to be. Like seriously, there are endless books, articles, movies and talks explaining why the comfort zone is not the best hangout spot. I totally get the reasoning but I struggle with assessing when I am in or out of my comfort zone.
No, the comfort zone is not this one place with comfy sofas that you leave and can never go back. I think that the comfort zone defines periods in our lives we accept the status quo, become content and pretty much press pause because we are fulfilled and quite sometimes happy (sometimes resigned). We stop believing there is much more to do and even get irritated by motivational speakers and life coaches on book shelves and our SM feeds.
Truth be told, I know some folks that are having a ball in their comfort zones and I can’t hate on their choices, sometimes I envy their bliss. My mother is an anti-comfort zone advocate so even if I decide to relax and sip Mojitos in my comfort zone, she won’t let me be. Our conversations literally end in assignments. “Okay Mummy, take care”…”Okay, Som Som, don’t forget to do ……..”
“No matter how comfortable you are, no matter how much or how little you have accomplished in life, do not ever stop dreaming.” Dani Johnson, Spirit-Driven Success
I love the adrenaline of pursuing new ideas, new projects, exploring new places and so on… so yeah, I don’t like comfort zones. I am not a fan of comfort zones but honestly sometimes, I don’t know when I am positioned outside my comfort zone. Do you? I spend a lot of time with family and friends, I rarely meet new people and when I do-its, hi, hello, bye! I have had a few failures in my life but I packaged them nicely and if the failures were lemons, I made spiked pink lemonade with them. As long as I can pay my bills and have enough money to make my kids smile, splurge in Walmart (yeah, Walmart) I am okay. I am challenged on a daily basis but it seems it is the challenge to stay afloat and not the challenge to fly.
“If you put yourself in a position where you have to stretch outside your comfort zone, then you are forced to expand your consciousness and to strive and achieve.-Les Brown, Live Your Dreams
So I am not in my comfort zone BUT I am walking distance away. So, if I forgot something in my comfort zone, I could dash and get it and you won’t even know I am gone. LOL. Maybe not that close, but hopefully you get the point. I know I am not alone, we are many a stone throw away from our comfort zones. Some are ecstatic with the fact they stepped out of their comfort zones (Mama, I made it), while others like me know that it is not yet uhuru and there is still much work to be done. Disclaimer: It all depends on our personal goals!
“Do Not Lie to Yourself , We have to be honest about what we want and take risks rather than lie to ourselves and make excuses to stay in our comfort zone.” ― Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart
So moving forward, I want to be as far away from my comfort zone as possible. Like the distance between Earth and Pluto. I googled this information, its not a geek alert. What are the steps I am taking to walk away (or should I say fly away) from my comfort zone:
- God: If I listed anything before God, I would not be sincere. Think about it, don’t you always dig out manuals when appliances act up, find doctors when the body is weak or even google when unsure. We always seek a source to find solutions. God is our source, He alone knows the who, why, when of our lives. We labour in vain without him.
- Block out Naysayers: Replace them with cheerleaders. Wait! Cheerleaders cheer regardless right? Hmmm…Replace them with an honest group of people who will be true to you at all times. If you are sensitive, this may be challenging.
- Create a map or you will get lost and end up where you started. Map out your best life. If you get stuck, your master plan will help you re-navigate.
- Ditch routines: Be more creative with your time. Try new hobbies. It will help you meet new people, develop new ideas and get different perspectives on life. I am loving my Toastmasters.
- Face your fears (says she who battles her fears): Well, starting the blog was one of my fears. I always wanted a blog but wondered if folks would read it, what they would say and if I would be consistent with blogging. What are your fears? It’s time to face up with them.
- Have a growth mindset: A growth mindset equips you with the resilience required to work hard and succeed.
“Do one thing every day that scares you.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I am sure there are many more steps that get (and keep you far) from the comfort zone. I am not an authority on this because if I use a dollar store binoculars, I can still see my comfort zone. If you are better at this movement than I am, please share in the comments and encourage my readers.